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When God Created a Man: What Genesis 2:15 Reveals About the Purpose of Men

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Most men of today spend a great portion of their lives in pursuit of the answer to one question: What is my purpose?

This pursuit plays out in career advancement, financial success, physical achievement, influence, retirement plans, and even ministry titles. We assume purpose is something discovered later in life—after enough experience, enough failure, or enough self-reflection.

However, we must ask ourselves, when Scripture presents a different reality, what will we do with it?

The purpose of man was declared from the very beginning of creation. God never intended that we simply search and discover our purpose.

“Then the Lord God took the man and put him into the garden of Eden to cultivate it and keep it.” – Genesis 2:15

We see this before sin entered the world. Before Eve was formed. Before children were born and before nations existed. God gave man his purpose. This purpose was simple: cultivate and keep. This verse is about God’s design. It’s about responsibility and the foundation of man’s purpose. The foundation of manhood. Misinterpreting this verse will mean a catastrophic misunderstanding of ourselves.

Purpose Was Given Before the Fall

The timing of Genesis 2:15 is of most importance to notice. This command was given when God’s creation, the world, was perfect. When work was not punishment and responsibility was not a result of consequences. The role of leadership was not a heavy weight upon the shoulder. It was a sinless environment where man received the call to cultivate and keep. Negative consequences are commonly associated with failure, however, in this case work and stewardship are not negative consequences. They are a calling or an assignment by the creator.

Adam was not created to just exist or relax indefinitely in paradise. God had intent when He place Adam in the garden. “The LORD God took the man and put him into the garden.”. Man’s responsibility and calling was an assignment from God. Therefore, the question is not. “What do I feel called to do as a man?” but instead, “What has God entrusted to me as a man?”

“Cultivate” — The Call to Build What God Entrusts

It is crucial that we notice that Adam was not told to preserve the garden as it was when God placed him there. He was given the responsibility of developing it and protecting it. The Hebrew word that is translated “cultivate” helps us understand the idea of working, serving, and laboring with effort. The implication is an idea of development. A godly man does not merely maintain that which God has entrusted to him, he works to improve what he touches. This doesn’t just happen, it requires effort. It involves sweat. It demands patience. The soil must be worked, seeds must be planted, and time must pass. This pattern applies to every area of life.

There are many indications in the Scriptures that show this pattern. While Jesus was hungry in Matthew 21:18-19, he cursed a barren fig tree for not producing what it was created to produce. Also, in Parable of the Talents Matthew 25:14-30 we see a picture of what it looks like to cultivate and keep that which has been entrusted to us. This pattern applies to every sphere of life.

Spiritual Cultivation

No man simply drifts into holiness by chance. A man must cultivate a relationship with his Creator. Nothing about spiritual maturity happens accidentally. This type of cultivation requires disciplined prayer, and steady study of Scripture. Sin must be confronted. This type of cultivation requires a deliberate engagement.

Each man has an assignment to cultivate his spiritual life in such a way that it grows healthy and is useful. God intends for that which has been entrusted to each man to increase in become more than it was when it was given.

Marital Cultivation

Any man who has entered into marriage would agree that a strong marriage is not something that just happens because we want it to. Marriage must be cultivated. Love must be expressed not assumed. Leadership roles must be intentional. An avenue of communication must be facilitated. When the marriage is neglected, like in a garden, weeds are free to grow. As weeds are allowed to grow in a marriage, they will choke out all that makes a marriage healthy. A husband cultivates his marriage by investing his consistent and deliberate effort.

Fatherhood Cultivation

No man became a godly adult by raising themselves. Fatherhood comes with the assignment to train, correct, encourage, and model spiritual health and integrity. This type of cultivation must be consistent, and it must be prioritized. After all, our children are not our own. They belong to God. We are simply given stewardship over them for a short while. There must be a return on investment.

Vocational Cultivation

Wherever God places a man, cultivation is required and expected. Whatever a man’s work, whatever his career paths, it is not merely a source of income. It is a responsibility and a stewardship requirement. A godly man should develop skills founded on competence, integrity, and diligence toward his labor. He should leave things better and stronger than when he arrived. If nothing grows under a man’s care, he is not functioning according to Genesis 2:15.

“Keep” — The Call to Guard What God Entrusts

Man’s assignment was not only productive–it was protective as well. This part of man’s assignment requires strength and alertness. If we are to understand this part of the assignment, we must first discern the Hebrew term that carries the meaning of guarding or watching over something valuable. We could also use words like protecting and preserving.

A goldy man is not merely a builder or a caretaker. He also is expected to be a guardian. And the short fall of Genesis 3 shines a light on the consequences when the guardian fails the assignment.

When the serpent approached Eve, Adam was present. The Scripture do not show any intervention on the part of Adam, the man. No confrontation or intervention. All that which God entrusted to him was unguarded in that moment.

The failure was a lack of protection. A pattern which repeats itself in every generation.

Guarding Doctrine

Perhaps one of the most precious and valuable responsibilities given to man by God is Truth. Once a man receives Truth, he must not only cultivate it in his heart, but he must defend it with everything he has. False, doctrines cannot be tolerated within the body of Christ or in the man’s home. This requires diligent cultivation by regular study and prayer in order to be able to defend. This requires courageous boldness. Truth is given to all who genuinely seek it.

Guarding Moral Purity

A man’s relationships, conversations, and the world’s information bombardment must be filtered. Everything must be filtered by the Truth. Discernment is key. Guardianship of a man’s moral purity is a task that demands non-stop attention. Passivity in this area not only invites spiritual erosion but guarantees a failure to keep that which God has entrusted to us.

Guarding Marriage and Children

Neglect, bitterness, distraction, and temptation. These are the enemies of a godly marriage. Against such things a man should passionately protect against in his marriage. Part of how this is done is by cultivation. In the same way, a man’s children need protection from exposure to the ways of the world without discerning leadership this only invites confusion for the children. Again, stewardship and responsibility for that which God has entrusted a man are the assignment.

Guarding the Church

We can find in the fifth chapter of Paul’s letter to the Ephesian church how he described the church as the “bride of Christ”. This would indicate something precious and valuable to Jesus. Therefore, it would naturally be just as precious and valuable to the godly man. Since it is God’s will that the believers be united in Christ and function as one, the Church, then we can understand man’s assignment must also apply to the Church.

This assignment to protect is not one of aggression. It is a calling to responsibility. Culture often paints a picture of masculinity in two extremes: domination or passivity. Scripture presents an entirely different presentation. Biblical manhood is responsible stewardship. The man who refuses to guard that which God entrusts is not demonstrating humility. He is failing to accept or flat out rejecting his assignment.

The Pattern Continues Through Scripture

There is a pattern found throughout Scripture that supports Genesis 2:15. Over and over, men were called to build and guard or cultivate and keep.

Noah cultivated obedience in a corrupt culture. Nehamiah built a city while organizing protection. Paul mentored Timothy, instructing him to guard that which was entrusted to him. While studying these examples, we can see the assignment played out. Develop what God gives you and defend it faithfully. By now you can see that the pattern always points to Christ.

Biblical manhood is not something that was invented. It is something that has been assigned by God the Creator. And we can see plainly that where Adam the man failed, Jesus the Christ succeeded.

The Danger of Avoidance or Neglect

The vulnerable man is evidence of a life of avoidance or neglect of responsibility. Genesis 3 demonstrates how passivity is very much a choice. A choice to either accept or reject the assignment. This neglect of responsibility is usually a subtle embrace of a life of passivity. Avoiding difficult conversations. Ignoring gradual compromise. Passing off spiritual leadership completely to others. And a total failure to pursue spiritual growth. All of this over a period of time will produce erosion.

The man who cultivates without guarding becomes careless. The man who guards without cultivating becomes harsh. Both commands require balance.

Living Out Man’s Purpose Today

None of this is only something that happened ages ago and only applied then. It is God’s design for man. It is and will always be God’s design and plan for godly manhood. Every man is entrusted with a garden to cultivate and keep. It is not a question of whether a man has a garden, it is a question of whether that garden is being cultivated and kept. The reality of it all is that a man’s purpose does not require reinvention. A man’s purpose requires faithfulness.

Conclusion: The Job Description Still Stands

The calling given to man has never been revoked. Cultivate and keep. What God entrusts a man should build upon. What God assigns a man should protect. As life goes on and seasons change in a man’s life, the responsibility will remain constant. So, if we are seeking purpose in manhood then we should begin with the creation of man.

As a man evaluates his given garden, he should evaluate areas that require cultivating and areas that require guarding. Once this evaluation habit is started, it is important for the man to then act. Man’s purpose is not realized by hopeful wishing; it is fulfilled in obedience to the assignment.

Genesis 2:15 is much more than an account of the beginning of man. It is the very blueprint for godly manhood. To this day, the assignment still stands. The calling is still in place.

To God Be the Glory.

The Christian Journey Cannot Be Solo

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“For even as the body is one and yet has many members, and all the members of the body, though they are many, are one body, so also is Christ. For by one Spirit we were all baptized into one body, whether Jews or Greeks, whether slaves or free, and we were all made to drink of one Spirit. For the body is not one member, but many.” – 1 Corinthians 12:12-14

As we read here in 1 Corinthians, we can plainly see that the singular Body of Christ is made up of a plurality of individual believers. This is Paul’s description of the Church. Everyone who becomes a believer, by way of placing faith in Jesus as Lord and Savior and following God’s plan of salvation, is grafted into the body of Christ.

So many times, I meet people in the community and as I get to know them, I find out that they believe in God. However, when the conversation turns to discussing what congregation or church they serve with, suddenly things change. It seems to trigger a frantic series of comments about how “they and God do their own thing.” Or “nature is my church.” Increasingly I am hearing from all ages that people just do not believe that there is a need to attend worship or be a part of a church congregation to be saved.

 My first response to this is that we must be very careful not to attach anything to the process of salvation other than what scripture teaches. What I mean is that attending church or being a part of a congregation of believers is not what saves a person. That’s right, going to church is not going to save anyone from the consequences of sin. However.

Scripture teaches many things about the Christian life and the characteristics of being a genuine believer in Christ. I want to focus only on a few areas of scripture for the purpose of this topic. But first I want to review what it means to be a Christian.

People who claim to be a Christian are those who have accepted the truth about Jesus as the Christ. His life on the Earth and death, burial, and resurrection are the work that brings forgiveness for the sins of mankind. Putting one’s faith in this fact and repenting of being a sinner is the beginning of this process. The Christian life is a series of acts of obedience which leads to spiritual growth, starting with baptism by immersion and receiving the gift of the Holy Spirit.

Upon becoming a Christian, the Holy Spirit immediately begins the work of sanctification. This is the lifelong journey of growing in Christ and the Holy Spirit having His way in our hearts through our submission to His will in our lives. This is what it means to accept Jesus as Lord and Savior.

Here we find the issue in the hearts and minds of many who actually do believe but do not realize that their understanding is off. The following are the definition of the words ‘Lord’ and ‘Savior.”

Savior (Greek-Soter) means savior, deliverer, preserver.

Lord (Greek-Kyrios) means master, one to whom someone belongs.

I believe it is difficult for a person to reconcile how they can be a genuine Christian while at the same time ignoring, or rejecting the truth found in the Word of God. The Christian life grows and is lived according to the guidance of the Holy Spirit together with the truth God’s Holy Word. The Bible.

Many want Jesus as ‘Savior’ but cannot or will not accept Him as ‘Lord’. The problem with this is that it cannot work this way. There is only one Jesus. There is only one Savior, who is also Lord.

So, when Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 12:12-14, (inserted above), he describes how God designed the body of Christ, The Church, to be the united by the one Spirit. There is only one church. No one can be the church alone. We cannot “do” Christianity by ourselves. We need other believers. That is what God created. Wen Jesus returns for the purpose of bringing home His bride, it will be The Church.

“For I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy; for I betrothed you to one husband, so that to Christ I might present you as a pure virgin.” – 2 Corinthians 11:2

“But God has so composed the body, giving more abundant honor to that member which lacked, so that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another.”  – 1 Corinthians 12:24-25

The point in all of this is simply that according to scripture, God intends for those who are saved by the blood of Christ to be united in Christ. United in the Spirit which dwells in each of them. One Church, lead by one Spirit, saved by one Savior.

Each believer has a specific purpose which God intends to use in harmony with the body of Christ. Because of this we should have a growing desire to be connected with a group of other believers where we can serve and grow together for the sake of the witness and for the sake of the lost souls in the world.

As I have already stated, not one of us can be the church alone. We need each other for growth, accountability, encouragement, strengthening, as well as fellowship in Christ. In fact, it is actually an act of disobedience if we are not regularly connected to a congregation of other believers. We are disconnected from what God is doing with His Kingdom.

“and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near. – Hebrews 10:24-25

We the believers around the world are a powerful force to reckon with. Our mission is to go into the world for the purpose of exposing the lost to the reality of God and the need for Jesus as Lord and Savior. When the Church is active together, united in Christ, we are unstoppable!

God and His Kingdom is and always has been claiming great victories over the existence of His creation! Even in our world today. The Kingdom of God is the greatest thing going in the entirety of God’s creation! Why would anyone who claims to be save by the powerful blood of Jesus not want to be a part of it?

Anyone who is genuinely saved would then naturally desire to be a part of the Church. It would be an extreme necessity. In fact, when we are away from our Christian family, we feel something missing. Christians need each other. We need each other like we need Jesus. After all, it is the same Holy Spirit living in us!

“Again I say to you, that if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven. For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst.” – Matthew 18:19-20

To God be the Glory!

Anxiety, Fear, Worry, & God

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It has always been my belief that God as our creator indeed created man with emotions. Therefore, we should be able to conclude that emotions are an important part of who we are as human beings. Since that fact being the case, it would make sense that our emotions are not generally a terrible thing to experience. However, I will say that, just as with anything else in our lives, our emotions can play a positive or negative role in the course of our lives.

Out of the many different emotions that human beings experience, Love and Hate seem to be the extreme opposites of them all. Somewhere in the span of that spectrum of emotions we will find anxiety, fear, and worry. It is these emotions that I will focus on in this blog post.

It has come to my attention that several articles and news stories are reporting this thing that they are calling, “phone phobia.” Surveys over the 2023-2024 time period are showing that almost 90% of Gen Z dread making or accepting a phone call. This is only one example of our society today and how we seem to be struggling in different ways with anxiety. There are, no doubt, countless more ways in which people from all generations experience anxiety.

As I thought about this statistic, at first, I thought to myself, well that seems a bit of a silly thing to be anxious about. Yet as I thought about what might really be happening, I was not only saddened for our society, but I also became concerned for the future of our society. I became concerned because I know that this kind of anxiety is evidence of a society that either does not know God or at least struggles in their relationship with Him.

I want to be clear that I am not intending to make a judgement against anyone who struggles with anxiety, worry or fear. I, just like most others, have struggled with these emotions at various times throughout my life. I know that the struggle is real.

Having said all of that, I would like to present some truths that if taken seriously and by faith, we could be set free from this prison of fear, worry, and anxiety. Yes, that is right. These emotions can become just that if we allow it. But, God, our creator, never intended for any of our emotions to become a prison or strong hold in our lives.

I have often preached that emotions are not sinful. However, how we process or deal with our emotions can affect our behavior. If our emotions are not dealt with in the manner in which God intended, then we can find ourselves allowing stress into our lives. To get to the point, God never intended for our emotions to be allowed to control our lives. Sure, emotions can and do affect our decision making but to allow emotions to drive our every decision would be less than what God would desire.

The fact is that we are told not to fear 365 times in the Bible. And just like most others, my first reaction each time I read it is, “easier said than done.” However, the fact remains that God’s Truth over and over again commands us to not be afraid.

These emotions, anxiety, fear, and worry are exactly what these 356 occurrences are addressing. It should be obvious that these emotions interfere with what God wants for His creation. God wants us to live in confidence, strength, and assurance in Him. He wants the world to see Him in us! That does not happen if we surrender to fear, anxiety, and worry.

The truth is, we live in a world that is in decay and it seems that evil and wickedness is increasing more and more as the world turns. The reality is that evil and wickedness has existed since Adam and Eve were kicked out of the garden. What has changed is the culture and the way that we exist in the world, and as long as there is change there will always be anxiety, fear, and worry.

When we read the bible, we are ready the inspired Word of God. We can notice that every truth that is in the Bible was written to someone in some age or generation of time. We can notice that all of them struggled with emotions just as we do today.

So, when we read in Philippians and see how the believers were being encouraged to keep their minds on the Lord and focus on who they were in Christ, and we see these words found there.

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:6-7

Notice that we can find some tools to overcome our anxieties, fears, and worries. As we notice these tools, hopefully we can notice that we have not been left to ourselves to deal with these difficult emotions that seem to take over our lives.

First, we pray. We talk to God regularly. He already knows our emotions. We should go to Him and be honest with Him and ourselves about our emotions.

Second, we offer our petitions. This is where we call on God to intervein. We ask God to give us what we need to overcome our emotions. We petition the Lord to guide us through these fears, anxieties, and worries. His Word tells us that He is waiting for us to come to Him.

Third, we always express our gratitude for God’s faithfulness. This helps in at least two ways. When we praise God and thank Him for His presence and blessings, we then begin to focus on Him rather than that which produces our fears, anxiety, and worry. Also, expressing gratitude, even before we see answers to prayer, shows God that we not only trust Him but also revere Him a Lord.

Fourth, all of the previous tools when exercised, are evidence that we actually believe in God and Trust in Him in all things.The more we trust God the better we are able to manage our emotions because we are more comfortable with giving them to Him.

The following pieces of scripture are simply a few parts of God’s Truth. I hope that you will read them and consider putting your faith in what they mean.

“casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:7

“Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, But a good word makes it glad.” – Proverbs 12:25

“For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.” – 2 Timothy 1:7

The bottom line here is that us human beings were created to believe in God and walk with Him. This is the Christian life. This kind of life requires faith. Faith is the key to living the life that Jesus died on the Cross for. Faith is the key to truly knowing God as He intended for us all! Faith is the key to overcoming these emotions so that they do not control our lives and dictate our every decision.

In case anyone does not know or understand what faith is. I will point out Hebrews chapter 11:1.

“Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” – Hebrews 11:1

Yes, I know. Easier said than done. If was easy, a caveman could do it. It is not meant to be easy, but it is very possible. All it takes is deciding to believe in God and then believe God. It means that we trust God always in all things.

I pray that if you struggle with anxiety, fear, or worry that God would draw you near to Him and that you would by FAITH draw near to Him. He is faithful and will give you victory!

To God be the Glory.

Our Struggle with Patience

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As I sit down to write this blog post, I find myself overwhelmingly aware of the reality of this topic. What I mean is that I have spent much time in thought and prayer as to just how to word my thoughts about patience and how it impacts the Christian life. The problem is, the more I think about getting it done, the more impatient I become about getting the words out to finish the blog post! The struggle really is real!

To get on with it. I was having a discussion with some people recently about the fruit of the Spirit as described by Paul in Galatians 5:22-23, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” While making the point in the discussion that we should notice that scripture shows the word ‘fruit’ as a singular and not a plural. Meaning that each of these virtues which make up the fruit of the Spirit are simply a part of the totality of the fruit of the Spirit. Sort of the DNA of the fruit of the Spirit.

While we discussed each virtue, when we looked at the virtue of patience, like always, we all expressed frustration about the fact that we all struggle with patience in our lives. I personally believe that struggling in this area of life is normal and should be expected. However, I do think that many times, people may misunderstand what this part of the fruit is really about.

It is common that our knee jerk reaction when talking or thinking about patience that our thoughts go to all those time in life when we have trouble waiting for someone or something. Or maybe we think about having to put up with a person or people that are difficult to put up with. I would say that both of those thoughts are correct and applicable. However, I would submit that God in His Word intends that we have a deeper understanding of what patience is all about and how it plays part in the totality of the fruit of the Spirit.

Recently while teaching through 1 and 2 Samuel, we studied how David was running for his life while King Saul was in hot pursuit for the purpose of killing him. All the while, David had knowledge of God’s promise and plan for his life that he would eventually become King of Israel. David exercised patience each time he had opportunity to kill King Saul and showed self-restraint. David at that time was a superb example of what it looks like to trust God and His plan.

Oh, how we wish we could be patient like David was. Oh, how we wish we could be as patient as Noah was while he built this gigantic boat in the middle of ridicule and persecution. And it definitely seems impossible to exercise the patience that our Savior displayed when He was arrested, beaten, mocked, spit on, cursed, and eventually crucified! He showed us the ultimate example of waiting on the Father to complete His plan! That is what patience as well as the rest of the virtues of the fruit of the Spirit is all about.

We say Amen! While at the same time, we continue to struggle with patience in our lives. Let us consider that maybe some of that struggle exists because our perspective on the things of life can be out of place. If our perspective is that which is focused on ourselves and how the world affects our own lives according to our plans and desires, then it is possible that we will experience unnecessary struggles in our lives.

If our perspective on the things of life and the events of this world are that of the Christian life, then our faith will have a great affect on our ability to exercise patience in all aspects of our lives. At the same time, it would not mean that we will never struggle with patience, it simply means that our struggles will ultimately build strength in our faith and our walk with Christ.

“Therefore be patient, brethren, until the coming of the Lord. The farmer waits for the precious produce of the soil, being patient about it, until it gets the early and late rains. You too be patient; strengthen your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is near.” – James 5:7-8

“Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.”- James 1:2-3

James explains this struggle that we all have with patience. He tries to help us understand that even this struggle has a purpose in the plan of God for our lives and for the bigger plan for His Kingdom!

Returning to our study in 1 and 2 Samuel, we are reminded throughout the life of David that hardship and struggles will prepare us for whatever God has in the plan for our future. It is most likely true that most if not all of us who are walking with Christ genuinely can testify that God had been preparing us for the things in are life today throughout our younger days. If we are honest with ourselves, we will admit that many of our worries and anxieties were unwarranted.

As James points out in the previous text, when we experience challenges to our patience, we should notice that our faith is being tested and we are being strengthened for endurance. Therefore, we should expect our struggles with patience to be different the longer we live and walk with Christ!

Finally, I would offer encouragement when we say to ourselves, “that all sounds great but this patience thing is just too hard!” Thank God for His Holy Spirit who lives in all of us who are part of the body of Christ through submitting to the work that Jesus did on the cross for the forgiveness of our sins! Jesus taught that the Holy Spirit would be sent to be with us, be our guide, to be our strength. We are not expected to work hard at being good at all these virtues that Paul described as the fruit of the Spirit. What Paul is saying is that if we live surrendered to the presence of the Holy Spirit then this fruit, (singular), will be evident in our lives. Not only one or two at a time but all of them.

Our hard work is simply the work of submitting to the presence of the Holy Spirit in our lives. Surrendering to God. 100%. This is when patience will be on display in our lives for the world to see!

To God be the Glory.

The Power of Expectations

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Anyone who has been “around the block” would testify to the fact that things do not always go the way that we plan or expect. When our expectations are not met, we might sometimes say “life happens.”

The truth of the matter is that when our expectations in life are not met, disappointment is the result. Therefore, we should make an effort to notice that expectations, while not always wrong or out of line, can be immensely powerful. Expectations can be so powerful that they could lead to either overwhelming anxiety and depression when not met or unbelievable success and blessings when applied appropriately.

I personally have spent most of my life learning to appropriately deal with expectations. My own toward others, others toward me, and expectations between me and God.

For years I struggled with managing expectations between myself and others. I often crumbled under the weight of the expectations that I felt others placed on me and also became defeated when let down by the expectations that I had put on others around me. Mostly, the expectations or lack of expectations that I had for myself had done the most damage early on.

It is only when we can learn what God expects that we then have any chance to manage expectations between others as well as ones we have for ourselves. After all, who knows better than God?

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord.” – Isaiah 55:8

After giving our lives to Christ and receiving forgiveness and grace through the blood of Christ, only then can we understand that what God expects is that we be who He created us to be. Then after we see that because of our desires to sin against Him that we cannot live up to His expectations, then we cry out in repentance and surrender to God. That is when we begin to learn and truly understand what God expects. He expects us to trust in Him by faith.

The point is this. Once we learn the proper place for expectations to live in our lives, then we will experience more joy and less disappointments and anxiety in life. After all, is that not what we all are searching for? There is nothing more miserable than a broken spirit.

“A joyful heart is good medicine, But a broken spirit dries up the bones.” – Proverbs 17:22

Just to be clear. There are many situations and roles in life that require expectations to be in place for all of us. Parents definitely should have expectations for their children. Spouses should have expectations for each other. Employers should have expectations for their employees. Society should have expectations for their government and so on and so forth.

However, when we put all of our weight on those expectations and insist that our lives play out exactly according to those expectations, well then, we would be setting ourselves up for failures, disappointments, anxieties and ultimately those broken spirits.

This is not the life that God would have us live. He would have us live lives that are able to put those expectations in their appropriate places all the while leaving room for God’s plan. In other words, as we try to manage expectations appropriately in our lives, we would do good to expect some unexpected realities to impact our lives.

We can know the will of God, via the Word of God, however we cannot know the mind of God, nor do we always know God’s plan as it plays out. So, we would do better to be more flexible when it comes to our expectations for ourselves, others and even God. We should learn to commit our plans to the Lord and let Him have His way.

“Commit your works to the Lord And your plans will be established.” – Proverbs 16:3

To God be the Glory.

God Knows About the Darkness

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Any of us who have been around the block even only a few times would know that life is not always sunshine and roses. However, often times once we put our faith in Christ for salvation, we soon find out that not even the Christian life is always sunshine and roses. In fact, Jesus taught that there would be trouble. He taught that there would be trouble because people would hate Him. Not to mention that we just cannot get along. That is why we need Jesus.

I remember when my wife and I received salvation. It was urgent in my heart that we both accept the forgiveness that God had offered us through the sacrifice of Jesus. I remember it brought such a peaceful feeling into my life that I had never experienced before. Then it was not long before we both began to get involved with the work of the Church. As we began to grow, we began to realize that life was still hard at times. We quickly realized that accepting Christ did not mean that life would be stress free.

It has been thirty-two years and a few months since my wife, and I got saved. During that journey, many trials and dark times have come and gone. I still remember times when it seemed that all had failed, and I began to question everything about my life and ministry. It was very confusing and very defeating during those times. Loneliness and depression became a very real part of my daily life during those dark times. I remember feeling like I was all alone. Even though I never believed that God had forsaken me, at times I had to continue to tell myself that He was there. Even though I could not see or feel His presence. As I think about these times, I think of them as the dark days of despair.

The dark times I am referring to had nothing to do with any of our efforts to share the gospel or make disciples and evangelize the lost. No, I am referring to the challenges and troubles that came about between the believers. That’s right. I am referring to the trouble that happens within the church. The times I am referring to usually were brought on by extreme situations brought on by only a few.

As I reflect, I think of 1 Samuel as we read about David being on the run from Saul who was desiring to kill him. We read that God had called David to become the king of Israel and Saul had turned from God and began to be threatened by David. We find in 1 Samuel that David at one point was hiding in a cave in the wilderness. While his heart was filled with anxiety and confusion, David expressed his feelings, and they are found in Psalm 142. It is in these verses that I find truth in my dark times.


In the first two verses, David simply cries out to the Lord in the darkness of the cave. He is honest about his feelings and condition before the Lord.

I cry aloud with my voice to the Lord;
I make supplication with my voice to the Lord.
 I pour out my complaint before Him;
I declare my trouble before Him.

Verse 3 shows that David is dealing with a situation that is bigger than himself all while expressing his trust in God’s knowledge and involvement.

When my spirit was overwhelmed within me,
You knew my path.
In the way where I walk
They have hidden a trap for me.

It is when I read verse 4 that God reveals to me that I am not the first to feel alone and desperate. I am not the first to be overwhelmed by the troubles of this world brought on by others. David felt hopeless and totally alone.

Look to the right and see;
For there is no one who regards me;
There is no escape for me;
No one cares for my soul.

It was at this point that I would have to force myself to continue to read through verses 5-7 of the Psalm. It is imperative to see how David was able to encourage himself in the Lord and cry out to God for deliverance.

I cried out to You, O Lord;
I said, “You are my refuge,
My portion in the land of the living.
“Give heed to my cry,
For I am brought very low;
Deliver me from my persecutors,
For they are too strong for me.
 “Bring my soul out of prison,
So that I may give thanks to Your name;

The righteous will surround me,
For You will deal bountifully with me.”

You see, David knew that God had picked him to be the next king of Israel. He also knew that God would do things in His own time. So, we can see in this Psalm how David was able to trust God in his darkness by believing God and trusting in His promises. He knew that the only way to find his way through the darkness was to trust and wait on the Lord to deliver him.

Just as David was able to survive his dark days, we too can take note of how he would cry out to the Lord and depend on Him even when he felt all alone and like no one cared about his troubles.

I can testify that God has never failed me. He always delivered me from the darkness and many times sent a brother or two into the darkness to wait with me. Also, I have never seen Him fail anyone else who would cry out to Him while trusting in Him and His timing.

Notice that David’s request to be delivered from his trouble was ultimately so he could praise God and give Him the glory!

I praise God that each and every time I cry out to Him from the darkness, He is faithful in delivering me. It has always been in His time, and I have been learning to wait on Him in the darkness.

I would encourage anyone who is going through some dark times and feeling alone and anxious, read Psalm 142 and begin to cry out to our Lord. Lay your heart out before Him and trust what you know to be true about Him and He will deliver you in His time.

I love you and the Lord loves you,

To God be the Glory.

30 Years- A Father & Son Journey to Manhood

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It has been a year and a half since my son’s funeral. I have decided to share some of his wisdom along with some of my own reflections about our life together in a book which was just published. The title of the book is called 30 Years. Sometimes 30 years does not seem long but sometimes it is a lifetime. The following is an excerpt from one of the chapters.

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As a preacher, I have had opportunity to preach many funerals. I am certain as long as the Lord allows me to have days, I will have many more opportunities. It does not much matter the age of the person who had passed on, the grieving family always feels that the passing of their loved one is too soon. That is because we can never really prepare ourselves for this kind of loss. Not even if we can see it coming due to extended illness or something of the kind. I often find myself telling families that this pain that we feel is simply the cost of loving people. It is definitely worth it.

At the beginning of this chapter, I included scripture from James 4:13-14 (NIV). “Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” I believe that every word of the bible is absolute truth. I also believe that if we would consider the wisdom to be found in it, such as this particular portion, we would not only suffer less but see God more throughout the course of our journey.

Remember in the beginning of this book I shared the dreams that I had for my son even before he was born? Not only did those dreams get destroyed but I also learned that God’s plan for these past 30-years was much greater than anything that I could ever have dreamed! After all, since none of us really know how much time we will be given in this world, how could we possibly come up with any plan that would actually be good? I have learned many things over those 30 years, one of which is that God’s way is the best way, and that life is short.

It turns out that my son was a wise man. He lived life in high gear most every chance he could. He made the most of every opportunity and every relationship he had. He lived well and he even died well. He was a strong man. A great man. He was God’s man! He made the most of the 30 years that God gave him in this world.

The purpose behind writing this book is simply to share a small part of the past 30 Years and prayerfully hope that it might be of some help to others along the way. I pray that anyone who would read this book would be blessed.

To God be the glory!

“Why Not Me?”

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Dustin Gilmer 1990-2020

If you know me personally, then you already know that my wife and I have been dealing with the loss of our son, Dustin L. Gilmer. He was killed when his van struck a concrete barrier dividing the interstate on which he was driving. This happened just days before his thirtieth birthday. We received a call at around 4:30 am on Friday August 7th, informing us about what had happened just a few hours earlier that morning.

I am unable to explain the shock and overwhelming pain that came over us during that moment. Never in my almost 49 years of life have I ever experienced such a total loss of control of myself. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. I could not even try to stop what was happening and felt completely helpless and destroyed.

It has been about six weeks now since this happened. During that six weeks my family and I had to do what everyone does who loses one they love. We had to identify my son’s body. Then we had to plan a funeral. Then we had to deal with his estate. In the middle of all that, we tried to process and cope with the reality that he was gone and that this in fact was happening in our family.

August 13, 1990

I feel that I can say that things were and are, even in his death, a bit different for us in that Dustin was born with a disability that caused him to live his life in a wheelchair. He was born with a disability which caused him to break bones really easily. In fact, when he was born the doctor informed me and his mother that he was not expected to live more than five years.

Pam, my wife, and I always felt that there was a good possibility that we would outlive Dustin due to his disability. Even though he was able to fight through the challenges of his disability and earn a great deal of independence, we believed that over time it would catch up to him and begin to take a toll. I prayed about that a lot. I guess for the past thirty years we lived with and dealt with his disability in a way that it simply became a part of who we are, and I guess became normal for us.

I was not a Christian when Dustin was born. However, I did talk to God every now and then. You know, the usual cry out to God when things are really bad. From the day he was born until he, my wife and I all gave our lives to Christ.

Since Dustin was born, my thoughts and payers were everything from why this disability happened to him, my son to “Lord if I could only trade places with him”. I went through just about every emotion I could go through during the first ten or twelve years of his life. Trying to figure out how to cope with my son and his suffering with this disability. During those years and really his entire life, we all learned how to function and be a family who not only suffered together because of the disability, but also to be able to move away from needing answers to our “why us” questions.

Over the years of Dustin’s life, we all learned many valuable lessons about how God works and how he does not work. We were able to grow as Christians and I believe that because of that, we were able to accept that God had allowed this disability and to be able to stand in the fact that God does not make mistakes. Therefore, we began to live in a place that helped us fall in line with what God was doing with Dustin’s life.

So when that day came when I received that phone call at 4:30 am informing me that Dustin was killed in a car wreck, in the middle of that devastating moment, I did not feel the need to ask, “why me?” or “why my son?”.

In the days and weeks after his death, my wife and I got in our truck and drove. I mean we drove for about four days. During that time, I could not stop thinking about all the godly men in the bible that had experienced tragedy. I thought about people like Abraham who was willing to kill his own son trusting that it was God’s plan. I also thought a lot about David who lost his son due to consequences of his own sinful behavior. Yet when God said “no” to his prayer that his son would live, David simply ended his fasting and prayer and continued serving God.

I mostly thought about Job. I continued to think about how much loss he had endured and remained faithful to God. He lost all of his children. Even though he was blessed with more children, I have no doubt that the loss of the first children made a lasting mark. There were plenty more people in the scriptures that I thought about who had suffered loss or tragedy. Yet they continued to be godly people.

I am simply sharing all of this because I think it was important for me to be reminded of the lesson that God had been teaching me for the past thirty years. It was as if God was reminding me by saying, “why not you?”. This is the lesson that was constant throughout the thirty years of my son’s life.

If we think about all the people throughout the history of mankind who were godly people and suffered. We will find many that were used greatly by God for His glory and for His will to be done on Earth as it is in Heaven! After all, Hebrews chapter 11 lists many of the “hall of famers” of the Bible. I think it is safe to say that none who were listed there lived without suffering.

Dustin, my son, would be the first to tell anyone that life is not fair. He would be the first one to tell anyone that bad things happen to good people and bad people. And he would also be the first one to tell anyone that in the middle of it all, God is doing something.

You know, 2020 has turned out to be a pretty crappy year for everyone. Like everyone else, I began the year paying a little bit of attention to the impeachment proceedings and wishing that it would be over, and we could move on to talking about something else.

Well, be careful what you wish for. I soon found myself after about three months of adjusting to COVID 19 precautions wishing we could go back and talk about the impeachment hearings! It was not long that I found myself, like everyone else, being overly stressed about the current events going on in the world.

I remember thinking about how I just started a new preaching position at our church and was excited about getting the church to grow and be successful about making disciples for Christ. It all seemed to come to an immediate stand still and I began to have the attitude of how it was not fair or right that our church was being affected like this. Not to mention the affects that it has had on me personally, just as it has on everyone else in the world.

Looking back now, I cannot help but continue to hear the words in my mind, “why not me?”. I think about all the generations over the ages who had to struggle and deal with world changing events. Wars, sicknesses, disasters, political and social issues, loss, and the like. I keep hearing, “why not me?”.

There were many generations since Adam and Eve that experienced a sudden and drastic change in the world which affected their lifestyles and comfort levels. So, the question continues, “why not me?”. Why would I be exempt from any kind of suffering or challenge? I live in the same world as they did. The same world that is contaminated by wickedness and sin since Adam and Eve! Who am I?

So, I must continue to ask myself, “why not me?”. Why shouldn’t I expect to take my turn at suffering and pain? This is the way life has been since the fall of man in the garden! This is the world we live in. God does not make mistakes and He allows suffering at times. So, “why not me?”.

God has brought many great things out of pain and suffering. And all of those things end in God being glorified and many have turned to Him for His saving grace because of the suffering that happens in the lives of His disciples. For the past thirty years, our family bible verse has been Romans 8:18.

“I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.”

So, I sit and think about the possibilities that God will use my suffering for His glory and for the sake of someone else’s soul! So, “why NOT me?”!

A final thought. I would not want this blog post to be taken as some kind of sad situation entirely. Certainly, it has its share of sadness, maybe m

Dustin L. Gilmer

ore than its share. However, if you knew my son at all, you would know that even though he lived in his wheelchair, he looked at the opportunities for success in his life and always asked the question, “why NOT me?”.

He lived his life well and also died well. I will forever be proud of my son and will forever give God the glory for the blessing that Dustin was for the last thirty years and will continue to always be.To God be the Glory for ever and ever! Amen!

Who’s Gonna Fill Their Shoes – Spiritually Speaking?

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While realizing that not everyone is a country music fan, specifically what is now known as the “oldies” in country music. Nevertheless, there was once a well-known country music singer/songwriter known as George Jones. He sang and wrote many #1 hits on the country music chart in his day. One in particular comes to mind for the topic of this blog post. It is titled, “Who’s Gonna Fill Their Shoes?”.

This song was actually written by Max Barnes and Troy Seals. Jones and his singing it made it a hit toward the later years of his career. The song was simply about an old country music legend wondering about the future of country music. Reminiscing about those who had come before him and participated in making country music great.

“Who’s gonna fill their shoes? Who’s gonna stand that tall?Who’s gonna play the Opry, and the Wabash Cannonball?Who’s gonna give their heart and soul to get to me and you?”

Those are the words of the chorus in that song. It causes me to ponder about other things in life, as it would with anyone else when reflecting on their own career or profession. Me being a Preacher, it makes sense that I would wonder about the church, “who’s gonna fill their shoes”?

In every church congregation, with the exception maybe of some new church plants, there are always those faithful saints who are “the older members”. These are the ones who have, because of their faithfulness, continued the work of the Kingdom of God over the years. They are the reason that the congregation even still exists! Some were there when the congregation first formed and when they built their first church house. Others came along throughout the years.

As a Preacher, I have heard many stories about the histories of the church congregation. Stories of how the men and women on the rolls throughout the history of each congregation worked hard and stood firm in their faith. Testimonies about how the gospel was preached and people were saved and how everyone loved gathering at the church and meeting together.

This past December, I was presented with a gift by my Father. I suppose it is sort of heirloom. I never had the opportunity to meet my Grandfather, as he passed away before I arrived. However, my Father handed me a bible that he and his brother bought for their Father. This bible was given to me for the purpose of reading and passing along in the future.

This bible also got me pondering about the future of the church. I not only mean the local congregation, but the body of Christ as a whole. Don’t get me wrong, in no way do I believe that the Kingdom of God could ever be defeated, die off, or even fade away. What can happen is that the Kingdom of God, the church, can, will and is changing generation after generation.

I still wonder, who is gonna fill their shoes? Who is going to be faithful in the work of the body of Christ? Who is going to be faithful in the work of the local congregation? Who is gonna stand firm in the doctrines of truth and bend like a pine tree in the wind when it comes to loving people? Are their going to be stories told in the future about the faithful Grandparents, Parents, Aunts and Uncles who walked the Christian walk in front of the children of the family which stood as testimony to the work of God in the local congregation?

 

The Most Important New Year’s Resolution

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As we all get back to our daily routines after New Year’s day, I would like to take a moment to point out that most of us are simply going to return to business as usual. This I suspect is much of the reason that resolutions ultimately fade away after a few months.

Sure, we all do our best to “try again” when it comes to those things in life that we believe that we are failing at or cannot seem to get any momentum with. I pray that we all can experience success or progress in our lives. However, I know from experience as well as from God’s Word that life is not always pies and ice cream.

The truth is, life happens. And as long as we are given life to live in this world, I would advise that we all commit to making just one resolution this year. I believe it is the most important resolution a person can make each year.

I came across this message, preached by Charles R. Swindoll. I will simply leave the video here for your enjoyment and pray that it will inspire us all to make the commitment!